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How to understand that a man loves you for real? We have been in a relationship for 3 years and doubts began to gnaw at me. At work, my man has a new employee and he has changed. He had never given importance to clothes before. He dressed simply - jeans, a shirt, a simple perfume. Now he suddenly began to flaunt, expensive perfume appeared, silk shirts to match the color of his eyes. Even when we first started dating, he didn't dress up like that. I think it's because of her", - writes Natalia.

« The man said he loved me, and he slept with many women in our city. He was so attentive, always in touch, I could not even imagine that it was possible to deceive like that ... Even when everything came out, he continued to swear his love to me. He said that he would stop all these ties. How to understand that a man really loves or deceives? I don’t want to step on the same rake in the future!” — Olga writes.

Does he really love me? Such questions often arise in women at the very beginning of an acquaintance, when she still does not know the man well enough.

Also, sometimes in our life, somewhere in the middle of a relationship, situations arise when we don’t know what to do, part or. Such problems always arise from our insecurities and negative past experiences, which often leads to the destruction of trust and we find it difficult to determine the veracity of our partner's love.

Development of love

The development of love has its own patterns. It all starts with sympathy, which is usually based on external attractiveness, on the characteristics of behavior and communication. In sympathy, the main role is played by the feeling of psychological comfort when you are near this person. At the stage of sympathy, we still do not know the qualities of a person, his character and features, but we are drawn to him.

Sympathy may precede falling in love or may remain only sympathy.

Falling in love is already a complex, full of contradictions, brightly colored emotional experience. As we get to know each other's good and bad qualities, falling in love can develop into love or lead to disappointment and.

Women who, during the first months of intercourse, wonder if a man loves them, are most likely dealing with sympathy or falling in love.

Love arises from falling in love - it is a long-term state, calm and stable. A person's ability to love depends on the level of his personal maturity. For information on what two important abilities love is made up of, see →.

Love does not love

There are two main signs by which one can judge the depth of a man's feelings.

1. If a man loves you, his feelings will be reflected in his behavior.

We cannot read minds, but with experience we gain the ability to guess people's thoughts from their behavior. In fact, to find out if a man loves you, look at his behavior and actions, and pay less attention to just one word. He can say a hundred times that he loves you, but inside himself consider that you are, after all, an unsuitable woman for him.

Ask yourself questions:

1. What does he do for me?
2. How does he behave with me?

2. If a man loves you, he will share his resources with you.

The most important resources of a man are:

• His time
• Friends and social connections
• Humor and creativity
• Life experience and practical skills
• Achievements and material resources

Ask yourself questions:

When a man loves

Love manifests itself in care, responsibility, respect and is associated with the personal maturity of a person. When a woman meets a psychologically mature man who is able to love and take responsibility, when she feels his respect, care and tenderness, she will no longer have questions about whether he really loves her.

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On the agenda, an interesting topic, how to understand what a man loves? That is, in love with a girl / woman, for real, experiencing very serious feelings. Interesting? Then get comfortable.

Very often it is girls / women who ANSWER such questions and give advice. Those. whether a man loves or not. That is, they are responsible for men. Think about it. Female. Being from another planet. Responsible for a man. From another planet. Ahaha. I will tell from a male point of view 🙂 and not from a female one, which is mostly on the Internet, almost everywhere. Comparing women's love with men's = not correct. Not at all correct. She's soooo different, just take my word for it.

What I mean is that all these written women's snot, emotions, writings, etc., are unspontaneous, in reality, to be honest, it does not reflect the real state of affairs associated with a man.

I will talk about real things = which reflect the real state of love in men.

Love is an instinct. That's all. Dot. And nothing more. Most people will see what a crap in style, love is something beautiful, it is a heartfelt affection, it is a strong sympathy that simply cannot be described in words, it is something incredible, love is from above, etc. etc. in this spirit...

In fact, you will not be able to explain, from the point of view of a reasonable component = what is this love, you understand? because LOVE IS an unconscious animal instinct. These are emotions. And logic (reason) = it is not possible to explain, that's all. Why is it so hard to understand - who the hell knows...

What I mean is that the choice of a partner, the process of reproduction and love = it is unconscious, you may not understand why you love, why you are with her = but you are with her. This is the work of INSTINCT (love).

I talked about this in more detail in the main article:

But! There is certain signs, pronounced, always present, if you LOVE! I’ll tell you about them now, so that you roughly understand whether you really love a girl or not. This issue will be very relevant for girls / women, so you can understand if your chosen one has serious feelings for you, whether he loves you or “nothing serious”, love, passion, etc.

No. 1. You constantly (a lot) think about her ...

If you really, truly love a girl / woman, then you will think about her a lot, almost constantly. Thoughts about her will generally arise and appear as if from nowhere.

If you don’t have that, you remember or think about her there, I don’t know, rarely or there on holidays or there only after work, when you have no one to be with / take a walk / have fun, etc. or there on weekends, etc., then this is not love. Believe me. If we are talking about love, real, serious feelings, then - you will think about your girlfriend / woman - almost constantly.

There will be a lot of thoughts in your head, you will be curious, wondering what she is where she is, who she is with, what she is doing, how she is doing, is everything okay, is she thinking about you and kuuuuuch everything. You will have a lot of thoughts in your head about her. An important point. It will take a very long time 🙂

If it has been there for a day, two, three, a week, two = then this is not love, these are not serious feelings; if you think about her for a long time, on an ongoing basis = this indicates the seriousness of your feelings.

There is another moment here. If you are alone - you have no other girls / women, there is no competition for you, then maybe you just clung to this girl - so that you have at least some kind of girl, as if better than fucking alone. Well, something like this. You understand the essence, I'm sure 😀

It is important not to deceive yourself here, if you are really in demand among many girls / women, but at the same time you still think and want exactly the same one (others are not interesting) - this really says that you have serious feelings for her, really don't even doubt it for a second.

In my life I had serious feelings only for one young lady. How did I even know that I was serious? Exactly on this point. Thoughts about her did not leave me, I woke up thinking about her, fell asleep thinking about her, even fucking dreams, in general, well, in general, my head was full of it.

And this despite the fact that there were already other girls / women with whom he could easily stir up. But, b * ka, thoughts about that young lady, for some fucking reason, did not leave me ...

When you have other options (girls), but you still think about the same one, all the time (think about her a lot), = this indicates that you have serious feelings for her (love).

Another important point. If you haven’t had a sex with a young lady yet = this is not love)). Everything starts after s*x. This is a priori, otherwise 100% nothing. Believe me. I warn you right away, young Padawans who, by any means, just to get into a woman's panties = ready for anything. This is not love)) when you want to kick the young lady you need - the brain works in much the same way as when you are truly in love, that is, you think a lot only about her. But! This should not be confused with love.

No. 2. You invest resources in it (it is important to you / dear)

If the feelings are serious, if you love, really, truly, you will invest in this girl / woman. Invest in it your time, your strength, your energy, your money, etc., etc. Do you understand?

Because I had feelings for only one - I, of course, invested in it in full.

Now it's hard to believe anyone, but in my heart I'm just a complete romantic.

I used to have a lot of photos (I would have thrown them off, showed them, but they are no longer there), where I had surprises, gifts, romance, a lot of weird things. I was high, really, I tried for her, and did a lot of things.

On the roof of the building, I remember, I drove and made a surprise, flowers, unsuccessfully chose halim wine)) there were still fruits, they put candles like that in the cemetery ahaha = in short, I skolhozil normally like that)) I remember it also rained there, it really was just that day epic fail... I didn't always succeed in everything the way I wanted.

I gave a bear, different flowers, quite often, I even remember sculpting tulips with sweets inside, I spent a lot of time creating them, it also turned out so-so ... I remember and arranged candles in the form of a heart, near her door to the house, I remember how sweat poured on these candles and thus extinguished them, on the pavement with a stone at night he wrote something there)) I also remember the phone was Sony Ericsson, without illumination, I didn’t see a damn thing, I wrote crookedly)) romantic x * ev bl *; I remember giving mittens in the winter, a gold pendant in the shape of a heart, in general, I don’t remember everything, I did a lot of things, tried, invested, first of all, with my inner sincere desire, my time, strength, energy and only at the very end fucking money ( they are nothing special to me).

I wanted to make her happy, to evoke positive emotions in her, a smile, joy, happiness .. that's why I invested with all my heart, sincerely, from sincerely, without even expecting anything in return.

Now, I don’t do this anymore, because, firstly, you need to be able to do it (so that there is a so-called, otherwise you can play with one goal, as I played - and end badly), and secondly, simply no one to do. Not to anyone in terms of feelings. There is no person for whom I have serious feelings.

And if you don’t have feelings for anyone, don’t give a shit about everyone and everything = then there’s no reason to invest. Well, because what the hell? Question? Meaning? If you are not going to build a relationship with anyone, you have no feelings for any of the girls = what the hell is something to invest in her / in them? What for? This is not logical ... I understand why men invest in women \u003d because they do not know how to seduce, but you want to fuck them, that's how they buy ...

But, if we are talking about a pumped-up man, very experienced, who understands the topic with women, he will not invest in just anyone, I give an absolute 100% guarantee! An experienced man will invest only in the young lady with whom he wants to build a relationship. Dot.

Personally, I will invest only in the young lady with whom I want to build a serious relationship. And I'm not in a hurry. Relationships are very serious things, I know what relationships are, who can / cannot build them, what a huge responsibility it is for a man, etc. etc. and I take it seriously.

In general, something skidded me. What is the point. If you love a girl/woman, you will invest in her. Invest your resources. Time, money, strength, energy = everything for the sake of her dear. Because you will want to make her HAPPY. Sincere, attention, inside yourself, sincere!!! Understand?

Well, let's have a few examples...

You will want to help her, if necessary, solve her problems, questions, affairs, as needed, you will want to protect her and protect her from everything and everyone, as much as you can.

A banal example, if you are not living together yet, you will accompany her home, because you will be worried that nothing will happen to her ... understand? I have always had it!

If something doesn’t work out for her or some problems arise, etc. = you will try to solve her problem, you will want to help hey, if someone offends / runs into her = also, well, that’s it.

The bottom line is, the person is dear to you, important - you want her to be happy and you do everything in order to make her happy. That's all.

You will call, write, come, inquire, etc. etc. you will initiate communication with her, you will want to see her, be with her, spend all your free time, etc. etc. understand? Interest in her and in spending time together clearly indicates that you definitely have feelings for her. Serious feelings, real, love. Understand?

If all this is not there, these are not serious feelings, this is not love. If you are “interested” in her once a week, a month, for fucks, when there is no one else with anyone else, or doing not dick = this is not love.

If she gets sick, you will come to her, on your own, she won’t call, even if there is no time - at night, but you will come, buy fruit, hey, medicine, visit, stay with her, you will want this, yourself, inside yourself, well in short - I don’t know how to explain it in words, you will have a wild desire to be with her ...

I had it all, so I describe exactly my examples, from my life. You will SACRIFICE YOUR INTERESTS - FOR HER. You will reckon with her. Have this in mind.

You will invest in her, all of yourself - because she is important / dear to you, she is a part of you, and you want to make her the happiest in the world, understand? If you don’t invest a damn thing, you don’t give a fuck about her = what serious feelings are there? If you live the way you want - and you don't give a damn about her - this is not love ... I give you a 100% guarantee. You will invest in it, this is a 100% guarantee.

You will sincerely worry and take care of her, you will not be indifferent to how her day went, how she is doing, what she did, how she feels, etc. etc. understand? If you think only about yourself, if you are not particularly concerned about her life, personal experiences, deeds, problems, etc., then this is not love.

If she is ill, for example, = and you sent a text message RECOVERY "D" A "RAGAYA" = what are these feelings?

If you leave her at night = you will reach with a show off yourself = what are these serious feelings? Guys? Yomae.

If someone offends her, runs over her = and you don’t give a damn = what feelings are there? If you loved, you had serious feelings, = you would stand up, protect her and, above all, your honor, because the girl is yours, with you, you understand? What kind of man are you if you cannot defend your honor, the honor of your woman?

Briefly speaking. There are a lot of examples, but that's not the point. The bottom line is that if a person is dear to you, very important, needed = you will protect her, protect, care for, invest in her, and make her happy. If this is not there, there are no serious feelings (love). That's all.

Girl / woman, here’s the main criterion for you - to understand, love / no, the words are something like that, many “men” - blurt out with their tongue, worse than women from the market, just to get what they want / something else there, but in reality " no shit." Therefore, watch and evaluate his actions and deeds, what he does for you and whether he does at all, you will feel his “feelings” through his actions, actions, behavior ... understand?

No. 3. You will change and become better...

If it is LOVE (serious feelings) then you will want to be the best man for her.

You will change, in many ways for her sake. You will get better, pump yourself up, I don’t know, the gym, take care of your figure, your body, beauty, appearance, health, you will start earning more, reach heights, improve, in short, you will start becoming better in many areas / industries (in many ways, for the sake of her). Understand?

How to explain that .. you will want to be worthy of this girl, you will want her to be only next to you and with no one else, you will want her to be proud of you, that next to her, the best man, you you will want to move fucking mountains for her, you will want to make her the happiest girl on the planet Earth… understand?

This is what serious feelings are (love). And if this is not there, not a damn thing has changed with her appearance, you don’t give a fuck, you were passive, like you were lying on the couch, not doing a damn thing - and you’re lying, in general, ala style “I am who I am - I don’t like it goodbye, it's not love...

No. 4. You will declare that it is yours!

If a man, especially, attention, worthy, high-ranking and at the same time demonstrates to all SURROUNDING people, relatives, friends, acquaintances, I don’t know someone else there, that you, dear, are him, with him, you are his companion, woman = be I'm sure that says a lot, really, a lot.

And if we also speak for a media personality, a famous person, popular, with a high social status, then this is generally a 100% manifestation of sincere serious feelings. Love. Because just anyone - such men will not show you to everyone! 100% guarantee.

Just keep that in mind, pay attention to whether he introduces you to anyone or not. And more importantly, how he does it, if firmly declaring that you are his woman, then everyone will get hurt, congratulations 🙂

No. 5. You will want to start living with her "together" ...

When a man is ready to build a serious relationship with a girl / woman, build a family with her, be with her, he is ready to live with her, in the same house / apartment. But! This does not happen immediately, but over time the relationship develops. Therefore, keep this in mind, at the initial stage this will not happen.

It will be over time, and it will definitely be, because if you have serious feelings, love, you will want to be with her, with this girl / woman, on a permanent basis, spend a lot of time with her, live together, incl. falling asleep and waking up together, having breakfast and dinner, etc. etc..

You will start and plan your future with her, where you will live, how you will live, etc. etc.

Well, of course, you will invest in it resources. For this part, take care, provide, feed, dress, protect and she, in turn, will do a lot of things, well, in general, this is all interconnected ..

No. 6. Separation - as a way to check ...

Also very good way understand whether there are serious feelings for a girl / woman or not.

If there is no item #1. in separation = you don’t think about her much = these are not serious feelings, not love.

With a person who was dear / important to me = this item was, and it lasted exactly 5 months. I won’t describe anything, it’s just a 100% way that can understand if everything is serious or so-so…

No. 7. You will be loyal (faithful) hey ...

You understand, when a girl / woman is dear / important to you = you love her, you have very serious real feelings for her, and you want to build a serious relationship with her (life, family, etc.) = then, without this item (fidelity) not enough. He will!

This item will be even in case of separation (for example, due to quarrels, scandals) and this can happen.

If this is not there, there is no devotion (fidelity), this is not love, these are not serious feelings.

No. 8. In sex, you will think not only about yourself, but also about her ...

Again, if you have serious feelings for a young lady, love, = you will want to make her happy (in everything). Do not forget. Including in sex. You will think not only about yourself, about your satisfaction, but also about her and her sexual satisfaction.

No. 9. You share your life with her...

When a girl is dear to you and not indifferent, important, you have serious feelings for her, then you let her into your life. I think, without further ado, everyone perfectly understands what is at stake.

You share your life, fragments, pieces, you talk about yourself, about childhood, there, family, about important things, moments, etc. etc. maybe even something that no one knew or knows, in general, you open up to a girl, let her into your life, into yourself, you understand? And all this is SINCERE from the heart.

That says a lot, take my word for it. Without serious intentions, it is pointless to do this.

No. 10. Everything. End. Item purely for women (not for men)

Girls / women are guided by FEELINGS, INTUITION, EMOTIONS.

We men have a developed left hemisphere - responsible for logic. You women are right - emotions. I mean that nature endowed you with the ability to read human states so that you can understand your child without any words, why he is crying (for example), etc. But also a man!

You have a unique opportunity to read men, FEEL THEM! Love or dislike. Lying does not lie. Etc. etc. Understand? These feelings, the feeling of true love, well, it's just impossible to fake and play, and there's no reason to do it, you know? You should feel it inside yourself, and not even doubt it, because if you have doubts, and the stronger they are, the more likely it is that your man does not love you. We men are much more straightforward beings than you women, so if we love a girl, then everyone possible ways let's tell you about it - with all these points that I described in this article. Take my word for it, dear, just believe it and that's it, you will feel it 🙂

Conclusions,

1) You think about her all the time (think a lot)

2) You invest resources in it (time, effort, money, energy) (it is important / dear to you)

2.1. right there: provision, protection, protection, care, attention, etc. everything for her happiness

2.2. You will SACRIFICE YOUR INTERESTS - FOR HER. You will reckon with her.

3) You change and become better (in many ways, for her sake)

4) You declare to the whole world that it is yours, belongs to you.

5) Over time, you will want to live with her "together" ... (build a life together, plans, etc.)

6) Separation - as a way to check ... (during separation, there should be point No. 1 and No. 7)

7) You will be faithful (faithful) only hey ... (even during separation, if any)

8) In sex, you will think not only about yourself, but also about her (and her sex satisfaction) ... (this can be attributed to point number 2, namely 2.2. reckon with her, sacrifice your interests for her sake ).

9) You will share your life with her ... (open up, let in, etc.)

You don't need to confess your love to everyone, to everyone you meet, etc. as do many boys, teenagers, boys, men, etc. = those who do this = very weak personalities. And they do this in order to get into the girl's panties and kick her naive, to be frank, or because inexperienced guys confuse the so-called. love with infatuation/passion, etc. understand?

Strong men = don't confess their love to just anyone. In general, strong men do not fall in love as easily as weak ones. Believe me. I've been through this and I know what I'm talking about.

So that I now say these words to someone - I love you, don’t make me laugh. And this is considering that I am also monogamous ... For me, this recognition is an indicator of overly serious intentions, that I am ready for a serious relationship with this young lady, that I am ready to build a family with her, prolong the family (create children), create a life together , take on all this responsibility, etc. etc.

I only once in my life = made a confession to one young lady. Nobody else. I was inexperienced then, completely n * syun, I didn’t know shit and didn’t know how, without knowledge, the right model of behavior, etc. etc. but the feelings were real, very strong, and everything that I described in this article was from her (it was with her).

Now, I don’t make confessions to anyone, because I don’t have feelings for anyone, and it’s difficult for me to fall in love, and right person finding it is even more difficult, and going through fire and water with this person = even more difficult, and all this takes a lot of time, a lot of time, in general, only a special chosen young lady will receive a declaration of love from me personally, and only then, when I am ready and sure that my feelings for her are real and real, otherwise, there is no need for me to pronounce them ...

You need to be aware that you have really serious feelings for the girl. Not love, not passion, etc., but serious feelings, for real. If this is real, you already consciously understand that she is yours, a part of you, that you really love her and are ready to build a life, a family, everything, everything, everything with her, then act, tell him about it, only my friend, advice you)) do it somehow beautifully ..

I mean, it’s not pathetic there, it’s expensive, mega-mega, a restaurant, all this shit, but it’s just beautiful, you know better how and what, in the end, to each his own, just understand, girls are extremely emotional beings, emotions are important to them . If you do it beautifully, she will remember it for the rest of her life and it will be cool 🙂 Good luck!

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Initiative in relationships has always been a male privilege. However, times are changing, and some, by virtue of their nature, are afraid to show their feelings. This leads to a natural question for a girl: how to understand that a guy loves you? In fact, rarely anyone succeeds in hiding their attitude towards the fair sex. Knowing the basics of psychology and having a certain amount of observation, you can bring even the most restrained guy to clean water.

In contact with

The language of the human body works at the level of instincts. When one person sympathizes with another, his gestures and behavior change markedly. In search of an answer to the question of how to understand whether a guy loves you, you can use the “mirror effect”. Its manifestations are associated with the desire to please a lady. It has been scientifically proven that when a guy truly loves, he unconsciously copies the behavior. Sometimes a man "mirrors" only some manners, in other cases he repeats the movements completely.

In order to understand that a guy truly loves and he needs you, you should study him in a company. A sympathizing man takes an open pose, turns the toes of his shoes towards the lady of the heart. After a successful joke, the lover laughs, looking into the eyes of the object of feelings. He actively supports the conversation, tries once again to be near and as if accidentally touching the girl.

A guy in love will try to take care

Showing concern is another feature of a man in love. If he needs you, then he tends to give his jacket on a cold evening, give him a lift or see him home, bring fruit in case of illness. There are other notable signs as well.

How to understand that a guy loves you:

1. He tries to spend with you a large number of time. A man is ready to postpone any business, just to go to the cinema with his beloved or just take a walk in the park, if he truly loves and he needs you.
2. He calls often. Calls for no reason are common not only for girls, but also for guys.
3. If he doesn't call, he writes. How to understand that a guy loves you will help and social networks. If your phone constantly signals about incoming messages, it means that it needs you.

A guy in love constantly wants to touch, hug, or even just touch his sleeve. He craves any contact, his eyes are easy enough to catch.

If, after studying all the tips on how to understand that a guy loves you and needs you, signs of feelings are not found, then you can change the strategy. Using women's tricks, falling in love with yourself is quite real.

What is needed for that:

1. To be a girl. Yes, it seems like absurd advice, but guys really love "girl-girls." Delicate image, feminine dresses, thin heels and a mystery in the eyes - these are the secrets of success. Cigarettes, alcohol and strong words are taboo.
2. Be interesting. Hobbies make a person special. "Drunken" reading of books or impeccable knowledge of the history of the ancient Maya can set you apart from the rest.
3. Be yourself. It is not only about behavior, but also about appearance. No artificial eyelashes, plastic nails and cosmetics carts.

With a man, it is important to be careful. Let your every thoughtful move not be noticeable to the guy. Aerobatics is to make sure that he is sure that he was the first to start this relationship and he needs you.

The largest social networks allow you to access your personal page. Often a quick glance is enough to understand a lot about a guy's personality. Having found out his hobbies, musical preferences and social circle, you can proceed to action.

There are some seemingly primitive, but effective options:

1. We find the communities to which the guy is subscribed. The wave is suitable for musical themes or groups about movies. We write him something from the category “how similar our tastes are” and strike up a conversation. Beforehand, it is better to actually familiarize yourself with the topic, otherwise it will be embarrassing.
2. If he regularly communicates on forums or groups, then you can enter into a dialogue there, and then go to private messages.
3. Another option is the Scheherazade method. tell him interesting stories, but always keep the conversation unfinished so that there is a reason to return to conversations constantly. The guy will get used to regular contact, and that's half the battle.

It should be noted that it is not always possible to fall in love with a man. The best psychologists, experienced girlfriends, and even mom's advice are not able to become components for a universal love spell. If the efforts go unnoticed, then it is better not to waste time and take a closer look at the other guys around.

Distinguishing love from love is sometimes beyond the power of even the man himself. That is why the advice can be almost identical. Additionally, some points about how to understand that a guy really loves you should be noted:

1. He introduces the girl to his friends. If, despite the three years of your relationship, you haven’t seen his childhood friend in the eye, then the guy probably doesn’t have any special feelings.
2. The guy introduced his beloved family. This important and responsible step speaks volumes.
3. He is always ready to help. Pipes burst at home and a real flood? Don't worry, he's already on his way to save your cat and TV. Flat tire at night in February? He could not sleep anyway, and the frost is an excellent tool for hardening.

How to understand that a guy loves you for real?

Many men are far from fools. They also know how to read women's forums and study pickup tutorials. How to understand that a guy loves you for real, and does not deceive, looking into his eyes? If he shows his feelings for show, defiantly kisses you in public, and in private likes videos and photos for hours, things are bad.

Unfulfilled promises and denials of responsibility serve as a wake-up call. Does he regularly prefer gatherings in the garage or sports bar to the company of his beloved? Darling, it's time to pick up your feet and drop this liar.

A loving guy is attentive, tactful, caring. However, it is sometimes possible to distinguish true love from a fleeting feeling or imitation only after a while. It is it that allows you to check the sincerity of a man's intentions.

11 Signs He Needs You

There are fairly simple methods for obtaining an answer. A checklist consisting of 11 signs of a guy's love will allow you to assess your need. How to understand that he loves you:

1. He is jealous. To your best friend, classmate, work colleague or even a subway driver. Of course, he can hide it, but sooner or later everything will become clear.
2. He is the first to initiate a meeting if he truly loves. Invites directly or veiled. For example, asks for help choosing a gift for mom or a bowl for a cat.
3. Appears to be nearby. By a miraculous coincidence, he visits the same hairdresser, goes to the same supermarket for milk and rides the same bus. Even if he's a bald motorist with a lactose allergy.
4. Worries. He cares if you're hungry, if you're cold, if you're tired.
5. He is attentive. One of the surest ways to understand that your boyfriend loves you is to look at him during the conversation. If he catches every word, reacts vividly and comments - this is a sign of feelings.
6. He is well-groomed. At a meeting with you, he is dressed to the nines, smart and smells delicious.
7. Wants to know more if he truly loves. What kind of chocolate do you like, where did you go that summer and what was the last book you read. No, he is not collecting dossiers, he just wants to know better.
8. Strive to get to know your surroundings. He does not shun girlfriends and is not afraid of parents.
9. He does not hide his phone and does not hide his conversations.
10. Tries to please. Gives favorite daisies, brings adorable sweets or calls to watch the sunset.
11. Listens. Do you love red? He will certainly buy himself a scarlet shirt. Do you love the smell of jasmine? He will take this into account when choosing a perfume as a gift.

Tips on how to understand what a guy really loves should not be taken too literally. Even the absence of some signs should not sow doubts in the relationship.

Maybe he hides his feelings?

If a man is afraid that his feelings are not mutual or for other reasons hides the true state of affairs, then the task becomes more complicated. Some guys still give some signs, while others are able to show aggression and avoid the object of adoration.

It's a paradox, but many behave this way. Do you remember when boys pulled their pigtails when they were kids? This also works with quite mature men. If a man from your environment is constantly trying to hurt you, take a closer look. Perhaps he is sleeping and sees you together.

In how to understand that a guy loves you, but hides his feelings, you have to rely on intuition. Often it is the inner voice that will tell the truth about a man better than anyone else.

Probably just using

Women's naivete at times gives men a chance to capitalize on relationships. How do you know if he loves you or is just using you? The easiest way to calculate Alphonse. Particularly impudent specimens ask for money directly, those that are more cunning complain of financial difficulties. Compassionate girls part with their blood, and the guy successfully retreats to the next victim. You should not borrow money from a man, regularly pay for his purchases and restaurant bills.

Another reason for a selfish attitude towards a girl is intimacy. To get it, the guys are ready to sing serenades and hang noodles. If after sex a man lost interest, if he talks about another victory to all his friends, then, alas. His feelings are probably fiction. When a guy truly loves, he keeps his mouth shut.

girls feel the slightest change from a man on an intuitive level. Therefore, it is rarely difficult to distinguish the period when a guy really loves from the stage when he has cooled down. Regular delays at work, stupid reasons for postponing a meeting, constant gatherings with friends or a hidden mobile phone are warning signs. There is a possibility that this is a crisis in relations, but if the situation drags on, then all that remains is to accept it.

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All of these signs must be interpreted freely. Trust your heart - and you will definitely be able to understand whether the guy fell in love with you or not:

Conclusion

1. When, he is ready to put the whole world at her feet. He changes not only behavior, but also the perception of reality.
2. Sincere feelings are felt at a distance. Therefore, the answer to the question of how to understand that a guy loves you, by correspondence or in real life, is quite simple. It is enough to listen to your inner feelings, observe the behavior and sensibly assess the situation.

The truth of life is that a man does not always love the woman he is with. He can give her original gifts, drive her crazy in bed, and even introduce her to her parents... but that won't mean anything. Fiery glances, joint weekends, sex marathons on the skin of a bear - girls, stop being so naive, men are born actors! Sometimes they play so well that they believe their feelings. Of course, until the first serious problem, after which you will be thrown away like used material. How not to fall for this bait and correctly assess his motives? Read our tips.

Loves or not: how to understand how serious a man's intentions are

• Refuse him

It's sad to say this, but modern world there are enough guys who take pleasure in morally destroying girls who are in love with themselves. It's like a marathon of narcissism, a source of fuel for their low self-esteem - to get the most affordable one, shake emotions out of it, break their will, and then quit as unnecessary. Tired! It is easy to determine this type by saying a firm “no” to a man. Not the kind of refusal that implies consent, but an absolutely clear "fuck off." Believe me, a truly in love partner will not be able to do this, he will continue to spin around and take care of you from a distance.

• Push the future

Even if a man thinks that he is forever subdued by a woman, showing all the signs of "love insanity", inside he is perfectly aware of his actions. How to check the depth of his feelings? If you have been dating for a long time, it's time to announce your desire to become a married lady. So say: “I want to marry, are you going to call or not?” Believe me, if everything is for real, he will step over his teenage fears and make you his wife, because you are “the one” for him. Well, if falling in love is far-fetched, it turned out to be just a way to brighten up bachelor longing and ensure regular sex - the applicant will merge, only you saw him.

• Assess real actions

How easy is it to get a woman's love, essentially offering nothing but empty promises, fiery assurances of love, and long noodles on the ears? “Wait a bit and I will definitely buy you this dress, then ...” “You'll see, I'll take you to hot countries and make you a queen, if possible!” "Stop wailing, I'll change ... someday." The truth is that feeding a woman "breakfasts" is easy. Men have long figured out the female nature and brazenly use it. Do not be naive, think about what you received from all the promises? The one who loves does not throw words, he is with you in the present tense - he has already screwed the shelf, he has already bought tickets, he has already arrived with a thermometer, he has already gone on a diet and is pumping the press. It is present, not future. He is here.

• Listen to your intuition

The catch is that by asking doubts, you got your answer. Nature has awarded women with a special gift to read someone else's emotional state -. Without him, no mother would be able to raise a child, feel his pain and fear, guess the desires of the baby at some subconscious level. This gift works with men too - when the eyes do not see, but the heart feels. And if a silent question is heard in my head more and more often: “Do they love me?” Most likely, it is rhetorical. Doubt does not appear in a vacuum. Obviously, a man behaves differently than before, something has changed in his look, behavior, intonations ... but your consciousness does not want to believe the signals received, it grabs at any hope, just to delay the moment of insight and inevitable pain.

What to do if a man does not love

You can kill yourself and ignore the signals further, exacerbating the psychological neurosis, destroying your self-esteem. You can muster up the courage and cross him out of your life, starting all over with a clean slate. Or can you stop guessing on coffee grounds and send a boomerang to your partner - change the relationship so that he is already trying to understand what you feel for him? Your move is small.

Some statistics

We are sure that most women do not understand anything about male love. So where do they get their information from? From pink melodramas like "50 Shades" or drunken conversations with divorced girlfriends who have a lot of claims to the world and a lot of complexes behind a fake neckline? The truth is not always obvious, sometimes we are ready to cling to any illusions, just to keep a man.

What do most of the authors of this topic say? Everything is lapped up, as if a carbon copy: a man in love is described by them as a devoted dog who will always be there; like a daddy that will solve any problem; finally, as an importunate fanatic who will shower you with compliments, forgive any imperfection and respect every whim. It turns out something ephemeral, a kind of miracle of nature, which is lucky to meet not everyone. But you need to believe in a fairy tale!

The problem is that the listed signs were invented by women themselves, who naively attributed their own feelings to men. They forgot, the male is not a woman, he understands the world in his own way, and it is stupid to be offended by him for this. How to find out what a man is really experiencing? We'll discuss below.

What is a man's love

The main indicator of the depth of his feelings is not expensive gifts or coffee in bed. It's not moonlight hugs, scented compliments, or willingness to compromise, no. The love of a man is expressed in the desire to take responsibility for his partner in order to secure her existence as much as possible. This is the natural instinct of a man, who has the following characteristics.

3 signs of a man's true love

Desire to protect partner from danger

This category includes several points at once for the safety of your beloved - give her a roof over her head, earn money for food, and also eliminate other dangerous competitors from the radar of companions. It turns out that a man who loves will definitely be jealous of his woman if she gives a reason, such is the instinct! He will do everything possible to provide his family with housing, at least put this task as a priority for the near future. And he will never skimp on the basic needs of his partner. That is, his money is her money too, no matter what weak men say, covering their carcass with stories about henpecked men who are on a leash with their wife. If he does not want to invest in a woman, if he hides his salary or keeps a secret stash, most likely he does not love.

Responsibility for her health and beauty

A loving man will take care of the health of his woman and her appearance. He will never save on her, saying, “this dress is too expensive, you look like an old one” or “everyone walks in holey boots, you will survive.” A truly loving man will adorn a woman so that she is even more attractive and glows with happiness. Need a hair gel? "OK, buy it." Special shoes? “I don’t understand anything about this, go and take it.” But the most important point: a man who loves will never allow a woman to ruin her health with cigarettes, alcohol or the habit of trampling food at night.

His priority is her well-being, the health of their future children, the quality of sex, and indeed the lifestyle in general, directly depend on this. A real man will drag a woman to the gym personal example teach her to follow her diet, and instead of cakes and chocolate, bring flowers or tickets to the theater. If a partner does not care what she eats, how she spoils her nerves at an unloved job, ruins her health by carrying bags of cement for his garage, or degrades at a computer monitor, because he is too lazy to take her attention with interesting things ... this is not love.

Desire to conceive a child with her

When a man finds that same woman, even if he never thought about offspring, an insight suddenly clicks inside him: “In the future, I only want children from her.” This feeling is inherent in evolution itself - to finally mark the female as his own, to fertilize her with his seed so that no one can take away the precious trophy. Even if he is afraid of responsibility, even if he is used to living freely and independently, love will change his views, starting a family will not seem like such a wild idea. In any case, a loving partner will never force his woman to have an abortion, this is not in his rules. But if he does not see prospects with her, it is easy, no public opinion will not understand. He will close up a random "gift" and run away into the sunset, because he will not worry about the future of his partner, about her survival and other vicissitudes of fate.

So, your man may also be that emotional cracker, aggressive vandal, selfish or workaholic who spends more time with work than with you. He may not remember the date of the anniversary, not please with pleasant surprises, polish the barbell in the gym instead of taking the children to the circus. But if at the same time he observes all three points listed above, if he is ready to bear responsibility for you and silently work for your well-being, then he loves. How can, laconic, ugly. But that is his nature.

How to know that a man loves you? It's very simple. The need for love in humans is the same as the need for food or sleep. But more and more often it happens that, trusting in beautiful words and assurances of love to the grave, after a certain time we endure. "It wasn't any love!" "He never got me for real didn’t love”, “Men don’t know how to love at all!” - admit that you uttered these phrases “beaten” by time and personal experience more than once or twice, consoling your girlfriend. Or maybe these phrases sounded and your address? If a man loves, what are the signs point it out - we'll figure it out in this article.

Women see him like that... and they're wrong...

“He has to wear hands. He must earn. He should help with the housework, with the children. He must love my mother. He must…” How much more? must" a woman can list, at the end without fail adding: “ … if a man truly loves!” In fact, the main thing that everyone needs to understand is that No one owes nothing to nobody! And if one of the above points "does not work", then this does not mean at all that the man does not love you. And even if he earns less or does not throw out the garbage, this is not yet sign that a man does not love a woman.

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Perhaps the main of the five - he just loves, that's all!

And still, how to know that a man loves you, what are the signs? Remember the good old wisdom: " They love for nothing, but in spite of it! If a man loves you, he does not demand in return nothing! He just loves, that's all! He loves who you are, not who you will be or were. But if he begins to “create”, “sculpt” a woman out of you that looks like ... anyone, but not like you, this is a sure sign of fake love for you! (Women usually do this - “sculpt a prince”, and then “for some reason” are disappointed.)

If, then he does not need proof of your love. It would not occur to him to demand from you a report on why you were late at work - he loves, so he trusts!

A loving man is always a romantic at heart!

Another faithful a sign that a man loves you, is the fact that he always attentive. Respect for the institution of the family is not always a sign of a man's love for his wife. Often women are calm, like a boa constrictor, when they see how their husbands take care of the children, how they help them with the housework and even bring all the pay into the house, but !!! Often they do this, by no means, not out of love for their wife. It's just that some men are so self-fulfilling. They like the image of the right man, whom everyone envy.

But if he pays attention to you with no reason, simply because ... he loves you and decided to give a bouquet "just like that." A surprise in the form of a new dress, or came to your work to "spend lunch time" together, or here's another: invited to a restaurant with no reason(although no one canceled Bastille Day) and there he dedicated a song to you ... Of course, you can have coffee in bed here and even a bouquet of balloons, but ... this is too banal for loving man.

A loving man, how to recognize if he is hiding

Secret love is real!

Remember Kuprin's brilliant story "Garnet Bracelet". Who among those who read it did not cry? Remember, there the hero opened only at the very end, but how did he do it ?! A loving man hides my feelings. Why is he doing this? Isn't it easier to come up and blurt out everything you feel? No, of course not! For many, this will mean "kill your love."

He hides his feelings because he is afraid to offend you with his love, because he is sure that you will reject him, because “the moment has not yet come”, finally, because he loves you so much that the fear of being misunderstood and losing you is so deeply embedded in his heart that the choice in favor of "blind silence" is obvious.

If you feel that you are loved in this way, then you are the happiest and at the same time unhappy woman in the world. Happy because she is loved; unhappy because the chance that such a person will finally decide and open up to you is 1/100. In this case, advice - open first! The only way!

If a man does not love a woman, what are the signs

Freedom is one for two.

If a man does not love a woman, but at the same time it is unprofitable for him to part with her, or he doesn’t want to for some other subjective reasons, then he tries to stay at work as long as possible, meet friends more often, and finally, on all business trips, ask just to ... not be at home.

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How does a loving man behave? He does exactly the same thing, exactly the opposite! A sure sign of a loving man is his “voluntary” desire to spend as much free time as possible with his beloved woman. Joint vacation planning, well, the vacation itself, of course; Weekends at the country house or with parents are spent exclusively together! A loving man is even ready to spend his only day off on you, making a "raid on shopping centers." It is only important to appreciate this and thank him for such sacrifice ...

Plans for the future, self-development

A loving man always wants to match his queen. He will always grow (financially, culturally and spiritually) for her. To be worthy of love his chosen one - this is what a loving man is guided in his actions. He always wants to surprise, delight and fall in love with his soulmate again and again.

Joint plans for the future are also a sure sign of sincere male love. The desire of a man to get married, build a strong family, give birth to children, live a happy and long life with you - all these are sure signs that a man is honest and sincere in his feelings to you.

For him there is only you ...

For a loving man, there are no other women! From now on, he does not pay attention to long-legged blondes, girls of model appearance are already indifferent to him, for him there is only one woman - this is his beloved. If a man truly loves, then he is proud of his chosen one, boasts of her to friends and acquaintances, does not hide her from prying eyes, like a concubine.

How to know that a man loves you?

How to know if a man loves you? Perhaps the main advice for the times - ask your heart - it is never wrong! Just ask yourself: “Do I feel happy? Am I loved - yes or no? The answer will be the most reliable, because your heart will dictate it to you! This is the best way to know that a man loves you.

I, Manoilo Oksana, am a practicing healer, coach, spiritual trainer. Now you are on my site.

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